Broken Families

 "As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live." - St. John Paul II

A family is such a beautiful thing; usually we are born into this institution or  married into. According to Modules in Social Studies "The family is a group of individuals who are intimately related, living under the same roof, supporting and maintaining each other socially, economically and emotionally." A

In today's society, families are broken, bruised and hurting; this will in turn will influence the very fabric of society. Families are being torn apart by divorce too frequently for a while now, Children are growing up with psychological wounds as a fruit of broken families. Family, usually suppose to be a place of love and support is dangerously become a place of toxicity and hatred. Persons have grown up holding unforgiveness and extreme dislike for members of family; wanting no interaction them. Majority of these negative effects of broken families is because of that individuals within the institution will not healthily express their hurt and offense. This has affected our society, rampant in society is hostility and trust issues; rarely do we see persons smiling, happy or at peace. 

One of the reasons for these broken families is that individuals as not truly dealt with their personal pains; though they may think they have, actually it just got numbed. Due to those pains and bruises not being addressed for healing, their venture into socializing and forming a family. This creates a rippling affect of brokenness in society.

To address this brokenness is to tackle it, firstly individually. We need to understand we are not okay, that we are broken and hurting. It is called acknowledgement; with it comes acceptance of what is. Until this happens persons will continue carrying toxicity in every relationship they pursue. After acknowledgement and acceptance is the seeking of healing. To seek healing beings with seeking to understand why I have been broken the way I am. Why did this family member did what they did? Actually comprehending why they did what happened should bring to the point of forgiveness; releasing all the pain and hurt that has been inflicted. Sometimes seeking healing, to understand why, what happened is actually speaking to those whom have hurt us. With the intent to forgive and reconcile. 

Until we tackle the brokenness, we in the world will continue to leave and breathe toxicity. Visit a qualified counselor, a religious leader; visit God to help you along the way of healing and wholeness. If our life is consumed by this hurt and brokenness then we are being rob of actually living.